Also not a noun. Don’t call someone “a transgender”
it’s an adjective. it describes and unites a group of ppl w like experiences.
using it in a sentence to say “a transgender woman/man/person” are acceptable/respectful uses of the word
important!!!
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reminder
• it’s ok if you accomplish things “more slowly” than other people
• it’s ok if you find difficultly in what others consider “easy”
• it’s ok if you fall behind, you will still reach your destination
• it’s ok to take life at your own pace
this is a post for every person w gender issues ever
- one day you’ll find the pronouns and name and clothing and niche that fits u comfortably
- until then,and whether you have or haven’t, you’re a lovely lovely person and you deserve happiness
- there’s nothing wrong with you
- and nothin’ wrong with experimenting
- and nothing wrong with changing your mind
- and people love u
- and u love people
- and i hope the world is good to you because you deserve it
don’t date someone who looks at a kid crying and rolls their eyes. more than likely they’ll do the same when you’re crying.
don’t spend time with anyone who thinks children shouldn’t be in public. kids live in the same world we do, they have a right to go see (age appropriate) movies the same as any adult.
don’t be that asshole who insists children are terrible when you’re terrible to them, too. kids have a right to not like people who treat them poorly. they don’t have to be polite to you because you’re an adult.
don’t be the dick who thinks of children as a hive mind or as having the same personality. kids are people… they’re just as varied in their personalities and opinions as any adult.
if you don’t want to be a parent, that’s fine. parenting is the heaviest responsibility in our society yet it’s treated as a societal expectation. but just because you’re certain you don’t want to raise kids, doesn’t mean you get to treat every child, who are people deserving of respect, like they’re less than human in any shape or form.
children are people and they deserve respect. my god, i can’t believe that i have to say it, but some of y’all apparently don’t know.
bitch-jerk-assbutt-teamfreewill:
When I was 17 my appendix ruptured because I thought I was just having period cramps and didn’t go to the hospital so don’t tell me PMS symptoms are no big deal
this actually happened to me during my math final and i didn’t think anything of it and when i was later admitted to the hospital my math prof was asking me ‘you didn’t have to take the final! why didn’t you tell me it hurt?!?!’ and i told him i’ve had cramps worse.
he gave me 100
This is actually an extremely common occurrence simply because in sex ed they don’t teach you how to tell the difference between menstrual cramps and other more serious pains. The way to tell the difference between cramps and appendicitis is that while menstrual cramps are generalized toward the middle of the stomach below the belly button, pain from a swollen or burst appendix will start in the middle of the stomach and relocate to only the lower right side, even lower than menstrual cramps, and is a very localized pain. It also comes on extremely suddenly and will worsen over time or when you make a sudden movement, like a cough or a sneeze.
Basically, if you’re feeling any sort of pain, even if it’s menstrual cramps, don’t hesitate to tell the school nurse or a parent, or if you’re out of school and home even make a doctor’s appointment. Chances are if your cramps are that bad there’s something they can do to improve that as well.
I am boosting the shit out of that reply, because I am twenty-fucking-five years old and did not know how to tell the two pains apart
Adding another diagnostic tool! This is something we use in the ER called the rebound test. Basically, appendicitis and cramps react differently to certain things. If you’re still not sure if you have cramps or appendicitis, take two fingers and press them into your abdomen where the pain is (try repeating this on the lower right quadrant of the abdomen just to be sure.)
When you press in firmly, it will probably hurt. Here’s the test: LET GO. Does it get better or get worse? Appendicitis will immediately hurt worse when you let go. Cramps will not. Go to the ER if the rebound test makes it worse!
THE REBOUND TEST IS REALLY IMPORTANT.
My husband got sent home from the ER with a rupturing appendix. When he came back and was rushed into surgery, the surgeon was super angry – “Why didn’t anyone do the rebound test?!”
All great info, but there is another lesson to be learned here: if you’re in major pain, it’s probably important – so don’t let anyone tell you it’s not. There is a documented pattern of women who go to the ER with complaints of pain being dismissed as overreacting…when in reality women have an incredibly high tolerance for pain, to the point that some don’t even realize exactly how serious their condition is. These stories only serve to illustrate this point.
Reblog to literally save a life.
I know a girl who thought she was having cramps but because she’d never had them before, when they got bad she went to the ER. Turns out she had a cyst the size of a grapefruit on her ovary and it had ruptured. Sometimes it really is just cramps, but sometimes it isn’t. Look out for that shit.
When trans women are mocked and made into jokes in the media, I get very upset, and I am often told “Kay, you can’t go through life getting offended every time someone makes a joke.” And I sputter and object but they don’t hear me. So I want to be clear for once, about why the jokes make me angry.
I learned to hate myself for being transgender before I knew I was transgender. I laughed at the jokes in stand up comedy routines, and prime time sitcoms, and animated comedy shows, and in the movies, and in books, and in games, laughing at trans women for existing, about “men in dresses”, about people who “got their dicks chopped off”, and I learned to think that was worthy of ridicule.
And then a day came when I felt a pang of envy at what my female classmates were wearing and I repressed it, and felt guilty, and a day where I felt incomplete because I had no breasts and I repressed it and I felt disgusting
And a day when I realized the only images of romance that made me feel anything showed two women together and I repressed it and I felt like a monster
And a day when I realized I felt sick when I looked at myself in the mirror after every shower before work and couldn’t bear to look at my own face, and I hated myself.
And then there came a day when I hated myself so much, and I thought I could never understand why, and so I just wanted it all to end. And it was just a miracle that I swerved my car back into my lane in time.And all of it started with a joke that I heard on TV, and then kept hearing from all the voices from the ether, over and over and over, worming an idea into my mind before I was old enough to realize I was absorbing it, the idea that a man in a dress is funny, and that changing your body parts makes you a freak, and that women who have penises instead of vaginas are liars and hurt men. And they’re still making these jokes. And somewhere out there right now, just like all those years ago, there is a little girl in a t-shirt and cargo shorts with buzzed off hair watching the TV, hearing that joke and absorbing it without knowing it, who will someday have to pry herself apart to tear it out of her head, just like I did.
That is, if she doesn’t kill herself first.
I know this is a really heavy post but if you read it and you appreciated it, I’d appreciate it in return if you reblogged it. This is really important to me and I want people to read it and understand it. Thank you.
Just don’t be a dick. That’s it.
if you see someone active on social media or something, and you message them, and they don’t reply, they don’t have to. just because they are awake and alive does not mean they have to engage with you whenever you want them to. you are not entitled to someone else’s time.
in the past, an abuser would see me post online and then hound me on aim until i answered. i felt like i had to hide. they also lived in my building and would pound on my door if they saw me online and i wasn’t responding to them. i had to completely ditch a screenname, lie about having skype, and turn off my phone to hide. if i saw they were online i couldn’t post on facebook or interact with anyone without them demanding to interact with me. the only legitimate excuse not to talk to them was being asleep. in their eyes, if i were really their friend, i would always want to engage no matter what, even if i had a migraine or work to do or wasn’t feeling very social. it didn’t matter.
please do not do this. if someone doesn’t write you back, don’t guilt them about where they are or what they’re doing. if you see someone posting on tumblr or facebook and they aren’t signed into aim or google or skype or whatever, that’s their business. if they are signed on but don’t write you back, it’s okay. sometimes people can’t talk to everyone all the time every time. some people can only talk to one person at a time without getting overloaded. some people are signed on in case someone needs to contact them with something important and not to be social. they’re not always hiding from you, and you shouldn’t make them feel like they HAVE to hide from you.
this is probably jumbled and i’m probably missing a lot here, but pressuring people to always be available to you every hour of the day and always answer the phone or text or chat or pm or whatever…if you require that of someone, you might need to take a step back.
I literally just had someone get mad I wasn’t responding to tweets they sent at 3 am my time. Mind you when I got online at 7:30 my time I was still in the “Slow wakeup, check the news” stage of my day.
Also, even if you wouldn’t be abusive, remember there are people who need time alone without talking to anyone – like me. Every month I take days just for myself when I don’t talk or engage with anyone to any activity, not even to a short chat, because I need that in order to stay balanced and happy.
And that, my friends, has nothing to do with you. It’s all about me and my needs only.
England, and from what I hear, Europe, is undergoing a heatwave.
Temperatures in the UK are around 30°C. Where I am it’s gonna hit 32°C in the next couple of hours.
To you Americans, you Australians, that’s nothing. It’s a mild day, we’re weak, whatever, I’ve heard it all, the thing is, WE AREN’T EQUIPPED TO DEAL WITH THIS.
The average temperature in the UK in July is 17°C. It is in the 30’s today. We simply are not used to it. We are used to rain and sleet and hail and wind, not heat. And our heat is a damp heat. A humid heat.
Because of all the sea around us we have an extremely humid climate if it gets warm. The air literally feels heavy right now. I am struggling to cool down because the humidity is fucking with my sweat, and as a trans man, the high amounts of water in the air, combined with my binder make it difficult to breathe, and I assume a lot of asthmatic people have a similar problem.
When temperatures in the UK are like this, people die. Don’t laugh about it. It is serious. It may not seem like much to you, it may not seem warm to you, but in a similar heatwave in 2013, 760 people died.
Our infrastructure is not built to cope with this. The house I live in, for instance, was built when the Thames still used to freeze over. It was built to be warm. The walls are thick, the windows are small, some rooms don’t even have windows that open, it was built with no though to air circulation, and this is one of the most common types of home in the UK. The UK government subsidises insulation. People fill every gap in their home with stuff that will keep the heat in. And nobody – literally nobody – has aircon. A lot of businesses don’t even have it. We have no use for it 99.9% of the time. Hell, I don’t even own a desk fan or even a hand held fan.
It is very different here to where you are. And we are used to and equipped for very different things. Instead of laughing, teach us how to stay cool. Instead of making jokes or quips, make info posts, and things that will help us.
Remember, this may be an average day to you, but to us it’s a heatwave. We cannot cope. And for some, particularly children and the elderly, it’s literally a matter of life and death.
Repeating this cause there’s another heatwave going on in Europe at the moment. This is reality for us.
A few good tips to deal with it, from someone from the south:
Fans are your friend. They don’t make things cooler, per se, but they feel really nice. You can make a “swamp fan” really easily that WILL cool things down. All you need is a styrofoam cooler, ice/ice water, PVC pipe, and a fan. Here’s a how to: http://www.instructables.com/id/Simple-Cheap-Ice-Box-Air-Conditioner/ and here’s a couple more: http://www.thegoodsurvivalist.com/5-easy-to-make-homemade-air-conditioners-that-will-save-you-200-per-month-on-your-ac-bill-and-keep-you-frosty-cool-all-summer/
It’s not going to help with humidity, but it will cool things down a good couple of degrees.
It’s really cheap and easy to do. Also? Freeze half-75% full water bottles or jugs. Just to have them around. That way you can have something really cold to drink around as it melts.
I don’t know if y’all have them? Or can get them, but the uh.. Evaporative towels, I know there’s a brand called Frogg Chilly Pads, they help cool you down a LOT. I walked 5 miles in similar heat with one of those and it was probably the only thing that kept me sane. All you do is wet it down and then wrap it around your shoulders. You can refrigerate it for extra coolness. It helps to wick away heat and moisture.
Even if you don’t have aircon? Keep your house open. All your inside doors should be open so air can circulate, even if you don’t have fans to help facilitate that. There can still be parts of your house that are cooler than others, so opening those up and letting that equalize can definitely help.
This one is obvious, but STAY HYDRATED. I know it sucks to be sticky and hot and with that humidity water is like, the last thing on your mind, but just drinking it will help keep you stable.
If you can’t cool your whole body, focus on arteries and veins. Cool your wrists and ankles. Cool your armpits and thighs, or the back of your knees, or the inside of your elbows. Cool your neck. Cooling major arteries will cool the rest of your body, too. You also lose a lot of heat in your head, so make sure you keep your head as cool as you can. Summer is a good time for a haircut. If you need to, just rinse your head with cold water. It helps.
Try not to be active during the hottest parts of the day, if you can help it. Stay out of the sun, relax, take it easy. Do more in the earlier parts of the morning and later in the afternoon. It tends to be its worse around 12pm-3pm. Any time before 11am and after 5pm is a good time to get things done. Otherwise? Take it easy.
If you get heat exhaustion, GO TO A DOCTOR ASAP. It can go from bad to worse VERY quickly.
If your face gets red and you feel exhausted, dizzy, nauseous etc. PLEASE lay down asap. Start drinking slow, small sips of water. Keep your head elevated. If it does not pass, it could be heat exhaustion. Call or go to a doctor ASAP.
I hope this helps. ❤ Stay safe, and stay cool.
shoutout to nb people who cannot pass the way they want, or have not found a way to pass the way they want yet
shoutout to nb people who
are still figuring out their identity
shoutout to nb people who have an identity that only ‘makes sense’ to you
shoutout to nb people who are belittled for being ‘genderspecial’ or ‘transtrenders’ by people who don’t understand you
shoutout to nb people who feel left out in the trans community, or are made feel like they don’t belong by people inside and outside of it
shoutout to nb people who feel comfortable with adding girl/boy to their label and those who dont
shoutout to nb people who have to deal with slipshod support and resources because your identity doesnt fit within the binary
i hope you’re all having a nice day. you keep on being you
willowfoot 